All of that may sound a bit detached & academic, so without trying to overanalyze the "why" in everything, let me make a few observations on behavior & protocol, all under the category of "necessary, but not sufficient":
- apparent heath (& fitness) - probably the first screen a top needs to get through
- size - not crucial. Really large may be a turn-on, but it is hard to swallow
- hygiene - really, really important (it's also probably the single biggest mystery to women about male behavior)
- friendliness & respect- both go a long way to getting you what you want - just because I'm the bottom in this encounter doesn't mean I'm an air-headed twit waiting for you to instruct me to do it - or how to go about it
- being appropriately subtle. It's one thing to stand slightly off the trail behind a bush looking as though you might be having a pee - and reacting mildly interested if a suitable man notices your presence. If he's interested, he'll want to see the merchandise, which you can display without being aggressively inappropriate. It's quite another thing to masturbate in front of everyone in the middle of a trail. On that note, standing behind a bush or tree is somehow a lot more alluring that sitting on a log - I suppose to some extent because the latter requires a conversation starter....and may lead to a longer conversation & dancing around the topic than may seem worthwhile. That may just be my personal view though
And then there's those men who won't acknowledge anyone's presence, even to respond to a casual "good day" as you pass by them. They seem to want to give the impression that they're there for some other (but obviously secret) reason....but they're a whole other breed.
Comments from readers are most welcome.